I understand that is a really controversial announcement and I'm likely to get flamed hard from the comments for which makes it. But it's real. I really don't care when my kids like me personally. I know they love me, also that I want them to admire me. However, they don't have to enjoy me. In reality, should they like me on a regular basis then I'm definitely not doing my job for a parent. This could be the so-called tough love in good parenting.
Wrong and right
Parents- our position is to receive our kids ready for that whole world. We are designed to show them right and wrong, the way to balance a check book, the way to do laundry, and how to treat other people who have empathy and respect. We're also likely to show them that they're not planning to have what they want. And that life sometimes isn't fair. And that hard workis hard, and sometimes that you do not get a cookie cutter or money by the ending of it. Our kids want us to teach them how to navigate life, and sometimes that means doing things that they do not like. Even when they say they despise mepersonally, in fact especially once they state they despise mepersonally, I know they are learning and that I'm doing my job.
After I was seven that I drove out two dollars out of my mother's wallet. I desired a publication. About horses, I always presume. I inquired for the money and she said no. So I took it, and went to the bookstore and bought the book. She captured me later about reading the novel and asked me where I made the amount of money. I lied to her but she already knew I had taken it from her purse. She said that I could continue to keep the book but that I had to get the income and she gave me a set of actions that had to be accomplished. My mum chose the book and told me that I could have it back when the chores were done.
I was so angry at her. I had to sweep our long, curling, hill of a driveway and I was just raging at her under my breath the entire time. But after I got older I realized exactly what she instructed me this afternoon. And today I do exactly the very same things with my children. They have been learning how to function as operational adults and very good folks. Therefore if this means that they think I am the meanest mom living sometimes I'm alright with that. And you should be too.
Responsible Kids
We're not doing our kids any favors by choosing the simple path and being their buddies. Our children want us to step up and be responsible. To be the adults. And also to demonstrate to them just how to be more engaged, active, honest, empathetic adults who can manage the hassles of life without falling apart. So once you do not say no to the children or you worry about whether or not they like you in the place of whether or not they have been learning you're failing them. Stop being their friend and start being a newcomer. They'll thank you in the future, I guarantee it.